Feelings of personal stagnation happen to everyone—and that rut often feels beyond our control, causing you to question our purpose, life path and decisions, past and present. When this happens, life can seem confusing, hopeless or uninspired. Often, self doubt, fear of making mistakes, ambivalence, and not wanting to get out of one’s comfort zone are predominant causes. Here are five steps to get you moving again.
1. Curb the self-talk that begins with “I have to …” and “I should …”
2. Do one thing you enjoy everyday. It will bring you new and positive energy.
3. Take a break from social media. It can have a negative impact on self-esteem and induce envy. Focus on pursuing personal goals and live in the present.
4. Do something outside your comfort zone.
5. Accept feeling stuck. Sometimes the more we resist an emotion or thought, the stronger it becomes. Allow yourself to be present in this emotion so mental energy can go toward moving forward.
Dr. Paula Durlofsky is a psychologist in private practice in Bryn Mawr, whose practice focuses on psychological issues affecting individuals, couples, and families.
Dr. Durlofsky treats a wide variety of disorders and has a special interest in issues affecting women. She is affiliated with Bryn Mawr Hospital, Lankenau Hospital, the Women’s Resource Center in Wayne, and the Psychoanalytic Center of Philadelphia. In addition to her practice, Dr. Durlofsky is a workshop facilitator and blogger.
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